We have been thinking hard since Steve got back from Moldova (He had a good experience there and will likely post about it on his website, www.StephenEimers.com ). What has given us so much to consider? Well, for starters, we were holding out on our final decision regarding country until after he got back in case he met some kids there that he just knew he had to have. That didn't happen but what did happen is the issue. It seems there is a group of five children over there; a fifteen year old boy, 11 and 13 year-old girls, an eight-year-old boy and a five-year-old girl. A family in Texas is wanting to adopt them, well, not all of them; they especially want the littlest girl and will take the two boys. Here's our dilemma, These girls are much older than we are looking for. Also, it would mean only getting two when we were looking for three. The thing that makes us at all inclined to consider is that the people in Texas are willing to pretty much pay for the whole thing so that they can get their kids. Oh, I forgot to mention that a Moldovan judge told them that they could not adopt only part of these children unless the others were adopted as well, not necessarily by them, just that they must get a home too.
We don't like the idea of separating these children at all but it looks as though they will be separated regardless of what we do. Another big concern for us is that this REALLY usurps Hannah's place as oldest. This is something very important to her and because she and the others are already willing to give up so much I hate to ask for something so huge from her. She is reluctantly okay with someone older who is close to her age but this would be four years at least in difference and when you are seven, it's a big deal. It also seems a little too good to be true, which makes us suspicious, and while we recognize that this could be God providing, since money is one of our biggest hurdles in this endeavor (Okay, our biggest!), It may just be a distraction from our original plans. This is our prayer, that we will have wisdom and discernment in this regard.
In talking with my parents and Grandfather about this, something my Grandpa said is what sticks in my mind. He said, "It occurs to me that thirty-three thousand dollars is not that much over a lifetime." He's right, of course, and we don't want it to be about the money but it does make us have to consider the possibility.
I think we are leaning away from this but will pursue it just a bit farther to make sure. We will let you know. In the mean time, keep us in your prayers . This is the first "loop" in this emotional roller coaster ride of a process.