Wednesday, June 25, 2008

In the Future...

...Anonymous comments will be deleted unless I like what you say--then I may keep them. If you sign your name and I still don't like what you have posted, I may still delete your comment. It is our blog, our children read it as does our family; I am all for a good discussion (really!) but an anonymous virtual tongue-lashing will get you nowhere but dumped.

Sorry for the negative nature of this post ! My last post drew two people who seem to think that children in orphanages would be better off there than in families that do not suit the opinions of these self-appointed "Orphan Police". I deleted one, the other is still there.

Melissa

15 comments:

Amy said...

Melissa-
I was hoping that you would have deleted the one after mine! hehe! I don't like being the comment before a nasty one! hehe!
After going thru a few "nasty" and ignorant comments on our blog - we just switched to not allowing any anonymous comments... jsut made life easier!
Have a good one!
Amy

Richard said...

You go Girl!

Mike and Christie said...

I promise to be good, I really do! :)

Mike and Christie said...
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Melissa E. said...

Well, ok... If you promise....
;-)

Missy said...

I am very proud of you for standing up for yourself! I did the same a while ago because people (why do they always have to sign anonymous) were leaving irritating comments. I took away the anonymous option. If you can't sign your name..you can't leave a comment! I love having power! lol

Tami said...

Oh, good grief! Why do people have to be that way! I too, promise to be very good. ;)

Anonymous said...

Please don't block anonymous people. I have a user ID but can't remember it. I read and check your blog everyday. I pray for you and your God given family. You have truly touched so many lives in a POSITIVE way! I like a reality check also. Your life isn't just perfect but there are problems too. It's real! I have adopted 2 from Russia and have used hot sauce also. There is a HUGE difference between loving discipline and punishment! Thanks for your blog!

Nancy

richard said...

Anonymous-can't remember ID:

I have the same problem. There is a 'Choose Identity' category called "Name/URL" It permits name entry without requiring a URL or login. I guess it is one layer removed from Anonymous.

MelissaE (and Steve):
You are doing an outstanding job raising the children. I have seen tremendous advancement in behavior. Anyone can tell from the posted photos that the children are happy and not ill-treated, though lovingly disciplined.

Anonymous said...

Melissa and Steve,
How amazingly sad that anyone would have a negative comment about what you write in your blog. Keep blogging! I check it everyday for a trip down memory lane. You are doing an amazing job! It's such a magical, frustrating, exhilarating life journey. Keep up the good work. We too had problems with family, friends and complete strangers making comments or questioning our choices with our children. Over time some of them have come to see why we do what we do, and apologized. As for the others.... they fall into the following categories: (uh-oh this might get me in trouble)
1. Have no children, nor regular interaction with children.
2. Have only bio children who are 'pleasers'.
3. Have bio children who are brats.
4. Have children they adopted who spent very little time in an orphanage and have assimilated well to their new lives.
5. Have children they adopted who have problems, but they think 'time' and 'love' will fix it. Sometimes it does, but many times it doesn't. We've found discipline, medication and therapy (all ongoing) have helped. This doesn't sit well with everyone.
6. Have a philosophical outlook that's completely different than mine (I won't comment on yours if you don't comment on mine).
I don't have a Google/Blogger, Open ID, or Name/URL, but I will proudly sign my name....
Sincerely,
Catherine Hendrickson
IUAFN family #475
(home 6 years)
p.s. You don't have to post this, but I just wanted to write and give you some support. BTW, ALL your children are so beautiful and so full of life....

Anonymous said...

Hi!

People who post these kid of comments should be banned from visiting you blog ever again if they have no respect. It's my advice to you as moderator. I'm a moderator on http://forums.flightsim.com/vbts/index.php. and we usually people who post negative comments. The ban can be for good or temporaly, depends on comments they post.

Michael & Jeanette said...

Melissa, Your blog is great and I love the everyday practical things you do with the children. You love them very much. My husband and I are leaving for Ukraine on Aug 23 or appt is Aug 28. I am praying for 2 or 3 little boys. There are some questions about being in Ukraine that I would like to ask you if you do not mind. E-mail is Jscruggs3@comcast.net
Jeanette

Anonymous said...

Hello my name is Lisa I would like to ask you questions about your Ukraine adoption experience...Please e-mail me at lcam@att.net Thank you

Bro. M said...

Steve-
I adopted a wonderful little girl (age 7) from Ukraine in 1999. We are considering adopting from Ukraine again. This time a sibling group (back in 1999 they discouraged the adoption of siblings for some reason). Since your adoption experience was more recent, what kind of general costs can we expect now? Eight years ago we spent about $12,000. Thanks! Great blog!

Bro. M said...

Steve-
I adopted a wonderful little girl (age 7) from Ukraine in 1999. We are considering adopting from Ukraine again. This time a sibling group (back in 1999 they discouraged the adoption of siblings for some reason). Since your adoption experience was more recent, what kind of general costs can we expect now? Eight years ago we spent about $12,000. Thanks! Great blog!